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The Art of Friendship


Friendship, Aristotle suggests, is the most immediate form of public personhood; it motivates a person for moral excellence, ennobles us to become a stronger unit for a social whole. And yet, the thing is this: the very material of friendship is the exchange of it. In friendship, sentiment is the relationship. Friendship may have a public aspect, but it is essentially a private exchange. If the letters between Anderson, Esherick, and Dreiser showed me anything, it is that friendship remains the special provenance of those who live it.

http://www.theparisreview.org/blog/2012/11/20/the-art-of-friendship/

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Friendship is something that fills up the spaces inside when you are feeling a little hollow. It is also a place to share joy and to push and be pushed -- to be better people, to think about different things and to try, risk and fail. Isn't it necessarily private and yet the whole of it can transpire in public?

Finding true friends in this life is not always easy. We live such insular lives. The friends I've found in life are cherished gifts. Maybe having a true friend helps us move out of the ordinary and into the extraordinary. What is a true friend? Well, that's personal, isn't it? But maybe it is someone who engages us in all the four psychic functions (according to Jung) that keep the psyche in equlibrium: sense perception, intuition, feeling and reason.

And someone we can laugh with.

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My motto had always been: you don't need a lot of friends, but you do need a few good ones. "The Art of Friendship." Yes, it is an art. My friend Herman was an artist when it came to friendship. His great gift as a friend was that he made everyone feel special, i.e., seen and valued. He did this by being a good listener and by not being overly jugdemental. As a result, he was the kind of person other people tell their secrets to and would probably have been a successful therapist. He looked for the good in other people and then responded to and encouraged that good. As a friend he only failed me once, and it wasn't a fatal failure. I'm not sure how often I failed him, because he rarely let on when I did and always moved on without abandoning our friendship. He wasn't a perfect person and didn't expect perfection from others. There were a few people in his life that Herman had to struggle to accept and be on good terms with. He considered those folks his homework assignment and teachers. I think Herman's motto when it came to friendship might have been: to have a friend, you have to be one.
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Katlin -- Beautiful. I agree with you and Herman. And yes -- a few good ones -- they see you through.
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